Relationship Clarity Check (RACCS™)
This is not another checklist.
It gives you a map of the pattern you’re living inside,
and identifies if any of those patterns are harming you.
Something feels wrong … this will show you why.
The Relationship Clarity Check is a structured evidence-informed screening tool that helps you to identify what's actually happening in your relationship.
It tracks any patterns of harm or coercion in your relationship, and explains how these patterns could harm you over time;
so that you can finally start making sense of the confusion and doubt.
Get your Relationship Clarity Check here:
When nothing quite adds up
You might be in a relationship that leaves you confused, exhausted, or constantly second-guessing yourself. Or you may have recently left one, and you're still struggling to make sense of what happened.
You might recognise things like:
Conversations that leave you feeling wrong, even when you raised a reasonable concern
Arguments that seem to go around and around, until you felt like giving up
Everything was great, and then for no apparent reason there was a shift, and suddenly everything wasn’t
A gap between how your relationship looks from the outside and how it feels on the inside
Apologising for things that weren't your fault, or no longer being sure whose fault anything was
Walking on eggshells, managing someone else's moods, or feeling you were slowly losing yourself in the process
No longer spending time with family or friends, or doing things that you used to love, because the reaction wasn’t worth it
After leaving, still wondering "Was it really that bad?" or "Maybe it was me"
These experiences are common in relationships involving patterns of harmful behaviour and coercive control. They’re also common in the weeks and months after leaving, when the effects of trauma bonding can make clarity feel impossible.
What you're experiencing has a structure: a specific, well-documented pattern of behaviour.
When you can see the structure, and map it to your own relationship, things start to make sense.
A structured starting point
The Relationship Clarity Check is a structured self-report tool developed by WiseWOMAN Studio, grounded in the Relationship Clarity Mapping™ framework.
Turning to contemporary research and sound psychological theory, Dee (the founder of WiseWOMAN Studio), has drawn together her training in Clinical Psychology and her over 20-years of experience working with women who have experienced control and psychological abuse, to develop an evidence-informed tool that provides women with clarity and insight to determine if coercive patterns are present within their relationship.
The Relationship Clarity Check asks you to reflect on patterns of behaviour within your current or recent relationship and provides a personalised interpretation of your responses so you can better understand what may be happening, or what may have happened, in your relationship.
The Relationship Clarity Check helps you begin to:
Identify specific patterns of harmful or controlling behaviour you may be experiencing or may have experienced
Distinguish between normal relationship difficulties and patterns of coercion, manipulation, or control
Understand why you may feel confused, stuck, anxious, depressed, or feel unable to trust your own judgement
Recognise the effects of trauma bonding on your perception and decision-making
Move from confusion toward clarity on your own terms
This is not a diagnosis. It is not therapy. It is a structured way to begin cutting through the fog.
The Relationship Clarity Check is for you if...
You are still in a relationship and:
You feel confused about whether what you're experiencing is "normal" or harmful
You've been told you're too sensitive, too demanding, or the problem — and you're starting to believe it
You suspect something is wrong but can't articulate what it is
You want a private, structured way to begin making sense of things — without having to explain your situation to anyone yet
You have recently left a relationship and:
You left weeks or months ago but still feel confused about what happened
You swing between relief and self-doubt, sometimes wondering whether you made the right decision
You find yourself missing the person or the relationship despite knowing it was harmful
You're struggling with the cognitive dissonance that comes after leaving — the gap between what you know and what you feel
You want to understand why it's so hard to stay clear-headed, and why the pull back feels so strong
The Relationship Clarity Check is designed for women aged 18 and over who want a structured, private, evidence-informed starting point — whether they are ready to take action or simply ready to start seeing things more clearly.
What's included?
When you purchase the Relationship Clarity Check, here’s what happens:
1. Purchase and access
You purchase the Relationship Clarity Check through the WiseWOMAN Studio website for A$29. After payment, you will receive an email containing your personal access link to the Relationship Clarity Check screening tool.
2. Information and consent
Before beginning, you will be asked to read an information statement and to provide your consent. This ensures you understand what the Relationship Clarity Check is, what it is not, and how your information is handled. Your privacy is protected throughout with no name required, and your email address is used solely to deliver your results.
3. Complete the Relationship Clarity Check
The Relationship Clarity Check asks you to reflect on patterns of behaviour and your own experiences within your current or recent relationship over the last 3–6 months (or for a past relationship, the 3–6 months prior to the relationship ending). It is completed privately, can be done in your own time, at your own pace (and takes only 5-10 minutes to complete).
4. Receive your personalised interpretation
After you submit your responses, your results are analysed and a personalised interpretation is emailed to you (typically within minutes). Your interpretation includes an explanation of what your responses may indicate and a list of relevant support resources.
What you receive is yours. Your results are private. They are not shared with anyone. They are designed to support your own thinking and reflection — to sit with, to explore further, or to bring into a conversation with a professional when you are ready.
Important information about what the Relationship Clarity Check is (and isn't)
The Relationship Clarity Check (RCC) is an educational self-report screening tool. It is not:
A clinical or psychological assessment. The RCC does not assess, diagnose, or treat any mental health condition. It is not a psychological diagnostic instrument and does not replace clinical evaluation.
A diagnosis of any kind. Your results reflect your self-reported responses. They do not confirm, establish, or substantiate the presence of any clinical condition or criminal offence.
Therapy or counselling. Completing the RCC does not constitute a therapeutic relationship of any kind. It is not a substitute for engaging with a qualified mental health professional.
Legal advice or evidence. The RCC does not provide legal guidance regarding domestic violence, family law, or intervention orders. Your results should not be used as evidence in any legal, clinical, or institutional proceeding.
A replacement for professional support. If you are experiencing domestic or family violence, psychological abuse, or coercive control, WiseWOMAN Studio encourages you to seek support from a qualified professional or specialist service. We recognise that professional support is not always accessible or desired, and the RCC is intended as a resource for women seeking greater understanding and clarity but does not replace individualised professional care where that is needed.
A crisis intervention or risk assessment tool. If you are in immediate danger, please contact 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) or call 000. If you are experiencing significant distress, please reach out to a crisis service or your support network before completing the RCC. Further contacts may be found here:
WiseWOMAN Studio is an independent educational platform. It is not a clinical practice and does not provide psychological services.
Before you begin: a note about safety
The Relationship Clarity Check should only be completed if you are able to do so safely, privately, and where there is no imminent risk to you or to anyone else.
If there is any possibility that your computer or device is being monitored or recorded, it is strongly recommended that you do not complete the Relationship Clarity Check at this time. Your safety is a priority and matters.
If you are experiencing significant distress or are in crisis, please reach out to your support network, a local crisis service, or emergency services before proceeding.
In an emergency, call 000.
For 24/7 support: 1800RESPECT — 1800 737 732
Pricing
The Relationship Clarity Check is designed to stand on its own — but it is also the entry point into a deeper learning experience.
WiseWOMAN Studio will be launching the Relationship Clarity Mapping™ Online Program — a comprehensive, self-paced educational program that builds on the foundations of the Relationship Clarity Check screening tool to help you develop a thorough understanding of the behavioural patterns, power dynamics, and psychological mechanisms at work in controlling and coercive relationships, to recognise them, and to connect those patterns to the harms that they may lead to.
When you purchase the RCC:
Your A$29 is credited in full toward your enrolment in the Relationship Clarity Mapping™ Online Program, and
additionally
You will also receive a 10% discount on the program fee if you enrol within 90 days of your RCC purchase date
There is no obligation to enrol in the program. There is no expiry on the Relationship Clarity Check itself. The credit and discount are available if you decide you want to go further. Simply forward your unique identifier number provided on the email containing the link to the RCC to be eligible.
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You don't need to have all the answers. You don't need to have made any decisions. You just need to be willing to look at what's happening — or what happened — with a clear framework.
The Relationship Clarity Check gives you a structured, private starting point.
Ready to start seeing things more clearly?
Get your Relationship Clarity Check here:
Still have questions?
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The RCC was developed by Donna-Marie Donaldson (Dee), Founder of WiseWOMAN Studio using the Relational Coercion Mapping™ framework. Dee utilised her training as a Clinical Psychologist and her experience working with women who have experienced coercively abusive relationships to develop an evidence-informed, non-clinical educational framework designed to help women understand patterns of harmful behaviour and coercive control in relationships.
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No. The RCC is an educational self-report tool. It was intentionally designed as a non-pathologising framework. It does not produce a clinical score, diagnosis, or treatment recommendation. It is not a psychological instrument. Your results reflect your self-reported responses related to your relationship experience, not a professional evaluation or opinion.
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After you submit your responses, a personalised interpretation is emailed to the address you provide — typically within a few minutes. Your interpretation includes an explanation of what your responses may indicate and a list of relevant support resources.
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No. Your email address is used solely to deliver your results and is not stored after delivery. It is not used for marketing purposes. No individual responses are reviewed by a person. You may optionally consent to the collection of de-identified data for research purposes to refine the RCC — this is entirely voluntary and does not affect your access to the RCC or your results.
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Yes. The RCC is specifically designed for women who aren't sure. You don't need to have labelled your experience. The purpose is to help you see the patterns more clearly — whatever conclusion you reach is yours.
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Yes. Many women find that confusion and doubt intensifies after leaving, particularly when trauma bonding is involved. For some women, post-separation coercive control behaviours continue beyond the end of a relationship.
The RCC asks you to reflect on the 3–6 months prior to the relationship ending. It is equally relevant for women who have recently left and are working through self-doubt, cognitive dissonance, or the pull to return.
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If you are in immediate danger, call 000. For 24/7 support, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.
The RCC is not a crisis or risk evaluation tool and is not a substitute for safety planning or emergency support.
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The RCC is designed for use by women aged 18 years and over. If you are under 18, you are encouraged to speak with a trusted adult or contact a youth support or crisis service.
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The RCC is designed to be a self-contained starting point. You may choose to sit with what you've learned, seek professional support, or continue your learning through the Relationship Clarity Mapping™ Online Program with WiseWOMAN Studio.
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Your A$29 RCC purchase is deducted in full from your enrolment fee for the online program should you decide to enrol within 90 days of purchasing the RCC. Additionally you will also receive a 10% discount on the full program fee from the purchase date. There is no obligation to enrol — it is available if you want to go further. Simply include your unique ID number that is listed on the RCC link email in your enrolment.
Disclaimer
Content provided by WiseWOMAN Studio, including the Relationship Clarity Check (RACCS) and the Relationship Clarity Mapping™ framework, is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not therapy, medical, psychological, or legal advice.
The Relationship Clarity Check does not assess, diagnose, or confirm any clinical condition, mental health disorder, or criminal offence behaviour. Results represent a reflection of self-reported responses, not a professional evaluation or opinion. Results should not be interpreted as professional advice of any kind and should not be used as evidence in any legal, clinical, or institutional proceeding.
If you are experiencing domestic or family violence, contact 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) or visit [1800respect.org.au](https://www.1800respect.org.au). In an emergency, call 000.
WiseWOMAN Studio is not a clinical practice. It does not provide psychological services and is not affiliated with any individual clinician's practice. Completion or purchase of any content provided by WiseWOMAN Studio or its associates does not constitute or infer a therapeutic relationship.
The Relationship Clarity Check, including all items, scoring methodology, interpretive frameworks, and associated materials, is the proprietary intellectual property of WiseWOMAN Studio. All rights reserved.
© Donna-Marie Donaldson trading as WiseWOMAN Studio. All content, including the Relational Coercion Mapping (RACCS)™ program and all associated materials, is protected by copyright and intellectual property law. All rights reserved.