Relationship Clarity Mapping
Recognise, track and make sense of patterns of coercive control in relationships
Online Program
What to Expect
10 Behaviour Types
10 Harm Domains
7 Stepped Sequence
One Map
Together provide you a method to identify and track coercive control patterns
Relationship Clarity Mapping is for women who are seeking greater understanding of coercive control, emotional abuse, and psychological risk, including:
What coercive control is, practically and legally
How it ‘looks’ in a relationship in real time
What it ‘feels’ like living inside a relationship with someone who uses coercion to control others
What drives coercive control
What makes it almost impossible to ‘see’ coercive control tactics
Why, despite the harm, it ‘feels’ so difficult to end or to leave a coercively controlling relationship
What the impacts and risks are of being in a relationship with a coercively controlling partner
How to identify if a partner is using coercive control and
How to effectively track the patterns of coercive control
Understand what’s happening. Then decide.
What it is
The Relationship Clarity Mapping program is a self-paced educational program comprised of 8 modules based on the Relational Coercion Mapping framework developed by Clinical Psychologist and former police officer, Dee Donaldson, bringing together:
sound psychological theory on human behaviour
contemporary research on intimate partner abuse
from Dee’s over 20 years of practice working with women in and recovering from harmful relationships, and
her own lived-experience as a woman who has also experienced coercive control.
Relationship Clarity Mapping brings that framework directly to you; structured, rigorous, and self-paced, so you can work through it in your own time, on your own terms.
This isn't a coaching program. It's not a support group. It's not therapy repackaged as education. It's a practical method to identify and track coercive control designed for women who want clear, honest understanding of what's happening, and the capacity to reach their own informed conclusions.
Relationship Clarity Mapping doesn't start by asking you whether your relationship is abusive. It maps what's actually happening: the patterns, what triggers them, what they're designed to produce, and how harm builds through repeated exposure to the patterns over time.
That shift in focus from labelling to understanding is what builds your skills to map harmful relationship patterns in your current or future relationships.
"Coercive Control is, by it's very nature, intentionally structured to remain hidden from the person being controlled. Instead women describe confusion, anxiety, irritability, depression, stress, disconnection, loneliness and a multitude of vague physical symptoms that they can't explain or understand, so they blame themselves. They believe there's something wrong with them.
Understanding the mechanisms and the structure of coercive control changes what women see, and what becomes possible for them going forward."
Dee Donaldson, Clinical Psychologist
Who it’s for
You’re a woman (over 18)
You're currently in a relationship, one that’s reasonably good (or ok) some of the time and unpredictably bad at others in ways that don’t make sense to you
You're experiencing confusion, self-doubt, or persistent anxiety that feels linked to your relationship but is difficult to name
You've tried to explain what's happening to others (or to yourself) and haven’t found the language (or the certainty)
You want a private, structured framework for understanding what you're experiencing, without having to seek professional support yet
You want to understand what's happening, not just be reassured that it's hard, to be told that all relationships have there ‘ups and downs’, or to be told to try harder
In fact, you may have tried therapy or couples counselling and it either didn’t help ‘fix’ your concerns or may have even made things worse
or
You've left but find yourself still confused about what happened. The clarity you expected after leaving hasn't arrived
You're experiencing cognitive dissonance: you know something was wrong about that relationship, but you struggle to maintain that knowing consistently
You want to understand the psychological mechanisms that explain why leaving was hard, why the pull back persists, and why self-doubt intensifies after separation
You prefer a structured self-paced program style of learning to a support-group model
and
You may have already combed through the internet, read books, listened to podcasts, watched copious amounts of Youtube videos and Insta content; and it may have been a little validating but you still feel confused, frustrated and that nothing quite fits your relationship context
You want something practical, that has depth, something that makes the confusion make sense. You’re not looking for someone to tell you what to do or how to feel. You want something that builds your capacity to reach your own informed conclusions with confidence.
You prefer a structured self-paced program style of learning to a support-group model that you can work through in your own time, at your own pace, in a private comfortable space.
"Relationship Clarity Mapping places women as the experts of their own relationship experiences. It doesn’t simplify or dumb down those experiences to make it comfortable. It doesn’t patronise her with trite reassurance that everything is, will be, or was, alright. She likely knows on some level, it’s not. And it doesn’t pretend or promise to be transformative.
It’s designed intentionally to provide women with a method that is accessible enough to be genuinely useful to her in her current and future relationships.”
Dee Donaldson, Clinical Psychologist
What it equips you with
Not outcomes driven. Capacities developed.
Relationship Clarity Mapping is designed to build:
Pattern recognition grounded in mechanism, not diagnostic label
The capacity to identify recurring coercive behavioural sequences and understand the functional purpose those sequences serve: what they are optimised to produce, rather than relying on categorical or diaagnostic labels that often fail to capture the granularity of each woman’s lived experience of a specific relationship. And to recognise that the pattern repeats in a predictable sequence.
Understanding of why confusion is structurally predictable in coercively controlling relationships
A working knowledge of the psychological processes (cognitive dissonance, intermittent reinforcement, trauma bonding, and autonomy erosion) that make confusion, self-doubt, and uncertainty the expected outcomes of these dynamics; not signs of weakness or poor judgement.
Specific categories of behaviours to recognise and harmful impacts to acknowledge
Understanding how specific behavioural patterns connect to specific harm outcomes: psychological, emotional, relational, social, economic, and physical, and how those impacts accumulate through repeated exposure rather than single incidents
A framework for informed decision-making
Conceptual language that is precise and non-pathologising
Language that is precise, non-clinical, accessible and non-pathologising
Language and conceptual tools grounded in the well founded psychological theory: Power Threat Meaning Framework and self-determination theory, that provide you with the ‘evidence’ that your responses are contextually rational rather than symptomatic. This changes how you understand yourself, not just the relationship.
Investment
Included in the program purchase price are 8 sequential modules that walk you through the steps of Relationship Clarity Mapping from confusion to clarity. Each module is comprised of:
Video: Between one and two videos during which Clinical Psychologist, Dee Donaldson, will explain each ‘step’ of mapping and clarify the concepts of coercive control and the experience of living inside a relationship in which one person uses psychological strategies and emotional abuse to control the other. Each video contains between 20 to 45 minutes of information and explanation to make the hidden ‘visible’ to you.
Reading material: For those that prefer to read than to watch or listen, the reading material explains the module topic and extends on the content to further support your understanding.
Reflective exercises: Opportunities for you to reflect on your experience and how the module content may apply to your relationship context.
Guided relaxation exercises designed to be listened to or read following completion of each module to support you as you move through each module and complete significant emotional work as you do (audio recordings and written instructions are included in each module)
Additional worksheets and diagrams are included in relevant modules.
The program launch commences in June 2026.
To make the program available to women who are ready to move away from feeling confused and stuck in unpredictable and confusing relationships that may be harming them, WiseWOMAN Studio is offering an introductory price of only $359.00 (Australian currency). This price is significantly below the value offered by the program inclusions and is equivalent to around a single session with a Clinical Psychologist in cost.
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What it equips you with
What it is, and isn’t:
The Relationship Clarity Mapping program is an educational program. It is not therapy, counselling, psychological assessment, or clinical treatment of any kind. It does not establish a therapeutic relationship, does not constitute professional psychological advice, and is not a substitute for individualised clinical care where that is needed or appropriate. Contacts for crisis services can be found on the WiseWOMAN Studio Crisis Helplines webpage in the menu.
Whilst the language used throughout the course is predominantly gendered when identifying partners, that is intentional due to the significant body of evidence that clearly identifies that men are statistically more likely to abuse or harm their partners. However, women in same sex relationships also experience coercive control and psychological or emotional abuse. Whilst the surface behaviours may vary (e.g., threats may include ‘outing’ a partner to family before she is ready to do so or to isolate her from the lesbian community she has previously sought support from), the mechanisms, behaviour types, harms experienced, and the method applied in the Relationship Clarity Mapping program apply regardless of the gender of your partner.
The program is not a forensic or legal resource. Content provided within the program does not constitute expert opinion and should not be used for any legal, investigative, or evidentiary purpose. No determination is made within the program regarding whether any specific conduct constitutes coercive control, domestic violence, or unlawful behaviour in a legal sense.
The program is designed for adult women aged 18 and over. It is not appropriate for those who are currently in crisis, experiencing active suicidal ideation, or who require immediate safety intervention. If you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services or a specialist domestic violence service before accessing educational content.